Why Situationships Will Never Work

You can tell yourself it’s fine. That it’s chill, it’s casual, it’s nothing serious. You’re both just vibing, feeling it out, going with the flow. No pressure. No expectations. No labels.

But late at night, when your phone is quiet and you’re replaying the last conversation over and over, you start to feel it… that little tug in your chest that says this isn’t enough.

And maybe it was okay in the beginning. Maybe it even felt exciting. The mystery, the almost-ness of it all. Sharing jokes, inside references, flirty texts that make your heart skip a beat. They tell you they miss you, but they never really show up for you. They hold your hand, but not in public. They say they care, but not enough to actually choose you. And even when they make you feel special, something still feels off. It feels like standing in the doorway of something real but never being allowed to fully step in.

Because you’re not actually in a relationship. You’re just in something.

That’s the thing with situationships. They offer you the illusion of connection without the safety of commitment. You give your time, your energy, your heart, but there’s no foundation underneath it. It’s a guessing game. One minute you feel so close to something real, and the next you’re back in limbo, wondering if you imagined the whole thing.

You don’t speak up because you don’t want to scare them off. You don’t ask questions because you’re scared of the answers. You start to convince yourself that if you just stay cool, if you don’t ask for too much, maybe one day they’ll wake up and realize you’re what they’ve been looking for.

But that day doesn’t come.

And the truth is, deep down, you already know. You know that if someone really wanted to be with you, they would be. You know that real love doesn’t leave you overthinking everything. It doesn’t make you feel like you have to shrink yourself just to be “low-maintenance.” It doesn’t give you mixed signals. Real love is clear. It’s intentional. It shows up.

Situationships might feel like a soft place to land when you’re lonely or healing or unsure. But they’re never truly safe. They keep you halfway in and halfway out, and that limbo starts to wear you down. You start to forget what it feels like to be fully chosen. To be wanted, not just when it’s convenient, but all the time. To be loved out loud.

You deserve more than “almost.” You deserve more than blurred lines and late-night texts that mean nothing in the morning. You deserve someone who looks at you and says, “I want this. I want you.”

Letting go of a situationship is hard because it’s not just letting go of a person. It’s letting go of what you hoped they would be. Of the story you kept telling yourself, even when reality wasn’t matching up. But your heart will thank you for choosing clarity over confusion. Peace over potential. Wholeness over half-love.

So no, situationships don’t work. Not in the long run. Not if you want something real. Because love doesn’t live in the gray area.

And neither should you.

Always,

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